3 Simple Yet Powerful Steps Toward Self-Empowerment

It’s easy to feel like life is happening ‘to’ us rather than ‘for’ us. 

I know I was that way for a while. I had what everyone told me was the epitome of a perfect life, but internally, I felt lost, confused, and hopeless. I was in a marriage I didn’t want to be in, and even though I had a good job, I hadn’t done nearly as much as I wanted to with my career. But it wasn’t until I decided to start taking my power back that my mindset started to change. 

I started to challenge the programming I had been conditioned to, and instead of living life by what society told me to do, I empowered myself to take back control — and I want to teach you to do the same. 

Recently, I launched my high-performance advising services to help people along their empowerment journey, and came away with a three primary steps to take in order to give yourself power back: 

1. Recognize and eliminate your limiting beliefs. 

We’re all guilty of saying things like “I can’t,” “I’m not supposed to,” or “that’s out of my comfort zone” when we face a new challenge. Most of the time, we’re wrong. Those knee-jerk reactions are your subconscious response to fear of the unknown. 

Recognizing those limiting beliefs is the first step in self-empowerment. Start to become more aware of how often you say you can’t do something, and ask yourself the real reason behind your apprehension. Then, eliminate those beliefs altogether by telling yourself you can do whatever you put your mind to. 

It might sound mundane, but recognizing and eliminating your limiting beliefs is the first crucial step toward self-empowerment. 

2. Reflect on what you want in life. 

Right now, there are too many people living for others. I used to do this constantly. Before my awakening, I had a hard time saying ‘no’ to family and friends, and bosses or colleagues whenever they needed something from me. I was worried that telling them something they didn’t want to hear would negatively affect our relationship. 

It wasn’t until later that I realized, if those people couldn’t be understanding of my reasoning to say ‘no’ to something when my heart wasn’t, than maybe we shouldn’t have a relationship at all. 

Living for yourself might seem selfish at first, but remember: You are the only one who is truly going to look after your well-being. And you’re the only person who knows what’s going on internally.

Start reflecting on what it is you want in life, and don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to things that don’t serve you. 

3. Set goals, and focus on getting 1% better every day. 

Many of us tend to get overwhelmed while goal-setting. Let me be the first to say, it’s normal to feel this way. However, letting that feeling prevent you from getting anything done will only stress you out further. 

What’s worked for me, and for other highly successful people, is focusing on making small consistent progress over time as opposed to huge leaps and bounds. No matter what your goal is, focus on getting 1% better every day. It might mean the timeline to goal achievement is a bit longer, but it’ll keep you from getting overwhelmed with everything you have to do, and halting progress altogether. 

You have the ability to create what you want in this life. It took me until my mid-30s to recognize the necessary shifts I needed to make, but committing to these three steps is what got me to where I am today, and will undoubtedly help you, too. 

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Thanks for reading!